The intimacies of a couple relationship are some of the last things people want to discuss.
Couples are frequently quite distressed and near breaking point when they arrive for counselling.
Most common issues are; Infidelity – addiction - sexual incompatibiltiy
“The concept of two people living together for 25 years without a serious dispute suggests a lack of spirit only to be admired in sheep. A.P. Herbert.”
Being in a couple is a unique relationship that can offer the deepest experience of intimacy, of friendship, of comfort as well as the greatest sense of hurt and betrayal. It is real, they know the best of you and they know the worst of you.
Its failure can cause wounds that take years to heal and few other relationships have as much power to challenge us and cause us such anguish.
Becoming a couple means merging two sets of perspectives, histories, values and worldviews and everything needs to be negotiated.
A couple relationship forces you to confront differences so that you can live together and maintain your individuality but also have the ability to put your individuality aside for the good of the couple relationship – both giving and receiving or resentment can emerge.
Becoming a couple is one of the most difficult and complex tasks of adulthood, but is often portrayed as the easiest and most romantic stage of the life cycle.
In reality, it is a time of transition to a new life stage – whether its your first serious relationship, long term partnership or second marriage – it requires new goals, new rules and a different family structure.
“If we can help heal the breach in a couples relationship and help it function properly, we can improve their happiness as individuals and potentially bring peace to a wider group – their children and families – Long & Young.”
Couples counselling can help couples:
Improve their ability to communicate
Become more self aware
Solve problems with less blaming
Address the sharing of tasks/roles/expectations
Become more intimate and affectionate
Navigate separation/divorce/blended families
All enquiries are private and confidential. Appointments to suit couples busy schedules.